reasons to laugh...

Thursday, November 24, 2005

laugh hard and love like you've never been hurt because every minute you spend mad or upset, is a minute of happiness that you'll never get...

Wednesday, November 23, 2005


The Evolution of Emotion

What it is and how it can be one of your best tools in achieving success in relationships.

Human emotion, in terms of the Personal Prophesy philosophy, is a very complex subject. Emotions, after all, come in all shapes and varieties: There are those that we find ourselves experiencing right now as we live in "the moment," those we have experienced for quite some time, and those we are only just beginning to feel as we move toward the future.

Most people don't realize there is an "evolution" attached to the emotions they feel. They aren't aware that what they feel today isn't necessarily how they will feel tomorrow or in the many tomorrows yet to come.

People tend to want to live and express their emotions in a steady, unchangeable world. This just isn't possible when you consider that our lives are, and always will be, in a constant state of flux.

Try to imagine yourself standing in a wind tunnel and try to envision the future as the wind blustering toward you and the past as the wind wafting behind you.

When you are able to view your life in this fashion, you realize that the "you" standing in this wind tunnel experiencing the inconstancy of the present, is significantly influenced by the change the "winds" of the future brings your way nearly every minute.

Our emotions are the same -- compelled by the past to thrive, and yet they are driven by the future to change. It's how we deal with them in the present that makes all the difference in the world. Emotions, whether you are aware of it or not, are always in a state of change. They are either becoming stronger, or they are disintegrating, becoming entirely different emotions as we live our lives.

Consider, for example, two people who have enjoyed what they always perceived to be a happy, loving, and committed relationship for a substantial amount of time. Suddenly, in the midst of all that happiness, they find themselves reaching a critical point of conflict. Regardless of the circumstances involved (yes, even including infidelity or another serious breach of faith), this couple breaks up.

He goes his way, and she goes hers. She's hurt and he's angry -- or vice versa. It really doesn't matter in terms of Personal Prophesy. All that matters is that they have suddenly chosen to take separate paths toward the future, but their emotions will quite naturally undergo change in the process as well. With the passage of time, he will undoubtedly find himself becoming less angry. He will either choose to spend this time apart on his own, or he will become involved with a new partner. As his emotions "evolve," however, he will find himself thinking about and, inevitably, missing at some point in time that woman he loved and angrily left.

She may feel hurt and dwell on her pain for quite some time. She may even run from partner to partner, attempting to escape the pain she feels. But, in time, her own emotions will "evolve" to the point where she realizes she didn't want a new partner for herself in the end at all. Time -- and the experience of being apart -- eventually holds the power to bring this man and woman back together. A whole new level of understanding has occurred where their emotions are concerned. Their emotions evolved to the point where they were ready to embark on a positive, new beginning, together.

When we first experience an emotion like love, it is an emotion still very much in its infancy. We are awed and overwhelmed by the experience. It is a beautiful, new feeling in our lives. We tend to view life as if we were looking through newborn eyes, and, as a result, we are caught up reveling in the splendor of the moment.

Then we begin to gravitate toward commitment. We feel so captivated, so sure this is the partner we want for the future, that we idealistically consume our time making plans and sharing the dreams, hopes, and wishes that seem to harmonize quite naturally with those of our beloved.

But once we become settled and feel secure in that commitment, reality begins to set in. We find ourselves having disagreements, engaging in arguments, and perhaps evaluating the worth of the relationship in general as a result of those disputes. Emotion is obviously evolving within the context of that relationship.

Those in tune with their emotions will have a relatively easy time adjusting to the evolution their emotions undertake. They have gained the wisdom and enough foresight to know that relationships don't exist in a vacuum and that change is an essential part of life. They will put forth great effort to keep a relationship thriving, even in the midst of change.

Those who aren't in tune with their emotions might shield themselves with the comfort of denial: "I'll just pretend these problems aren't happening and they will go away." Otherwise, they may run from the relationship entirely, and the evolution of their emotions will inevitably make them realize that while they can run, they will never be able to hide from the truth their own hearts speak to them.

As you engage in loving relationships, the best piece of advice I can offer you is to always be prepared for change. It will occur, whether you are consciously ready for it or not. Your relationships are evolving even as you are reading these words, and that sense of "evolution" can be your best friend or your worst foe, depending on how adaptable you are in terms of your relationships.

If you have a partner who you believe truly loves you -- allow that partner enough space in which to grow and change emotionally. Realize that today is not yesterday in terms of your relationship, and that you are both striving in your own way toward a satisfying love-filled tomorrow.

If you are enduring the aftermath of a painful break-up or coping with one about to occur, remember: What that partner leaving you feels today won't be the same emotions he or she feels in the days yet to come. Try your best to let this partner go with the knowledge that you love him or her and only want the best for this person in the end. By doing so, you leave an important door open. This individual may walk through this door once his or her emotions have evolved to the point where it is realized how much you mean and how much this person yearns to share the future with you.

Tuesday, November 22, 2005


Jogging is a world of experience by itself.

After 3 miles or so, I felt a pain in my left leg.

Not a major pain, it just felt like the beginning of a cramp.

I began to limp.

I didn't want to put any excess pressure on the leg because

I had over three miles to go even if I turned around and headed straight back,

and I wasn't at the half way point yet.

Something said, "Glide."Glide?

I began to notice how I was running with the limping action.

My gait was uneven.

It was awkward.

I didn't know the exact kinetics,

but I knew the un-rhythmic motion was putting additional strain on my leg muscles.

So I began to glide.

I focused on running smoothly.

I let my feet touch the pavement as light as possible.

Like a swan skimming over a lake,

I concentrated to make each step as graceful as possible.

Within a minute, my left leg felt fine.

Often when pain hits us, we lose our grace and become awkward.

We shuffle, stumble, bumble, weave, wobble, hobble, and stagger.

If we just glide and stay smooth, often the pain goes away,

because the rough motion makes it worse, not better.

Someone criticizes us. . . OUCH!

We shuffle, stumble, bumble, weave, wobble, hobble, and stagger.

Someone offends us. . . OUCH!

We shuffle, stumble, bumble, weave, wobble, hobble, and stagger.

Someone has a difference of opinion. . . OUCH!

We shuffle, stumble, bumble, weave, wobble, hobble, and stagger.

Someone doesn't respond the way we think they should. . . OUCH!

We shuffle, stumble, bumble, weave, wobble, hobble, and stagger.

Instead of maintaining our peace, the smooth gait, we become frustrated.

That makes the pain worse, not better.

Instead of forgiving and forgetting, we retaliate and remember.

That often makes the pain worse.

Many of life's pains would go away if we'd just learn to glide.

Yes, it hurts, but the shuffling and stumbling usually doesn't help.

While jogging (or with any exercise) if pain starts, it's usually wise to just stop.

This was more a spiritual revelation yet, it applied to physical things.

If we can keep our movements, thoughts, emotions, and spirit smooth,

that often takes us right over the rough things.


~A MountainWings Original~